Let’s look at that boss you work for!  Any of this sound familiar?

  • She never gives me time off
  • She expects me to work late into the night
  • She berates me if I haven’t started work the minute my eyes are open
  • She thinks it’s ok to demand me to work weekends
  • She isn’t at all keen on a lunch break and if I even think of eating my lunch away from my desk then she’ll make me feel really guilty.
  • She expects me to respond to everything straight away.
  • She doesn’t congratulate me for a job well done.
  • She doesn’t give a shit if I hit my targets as she’s already moved the goal posts.
  • She doesn’t give me holidays
  • I can’t take sick days without lashings of negativity, guilt and questioning as to whether I’m really sick enough to take the day off.
  • She doesn’t celebrate the fact I’ve made a sale – she shouts and yells at me that I should have made more.
  • She’s never happy with my performance
  • She thinks having my phone with me is as essence to my heart beating to maintain my very existence
  • She doesn’t buy ice-creams in the summer or Christmas Presents at Christmas
  • She says REALLY mean things to me every day (including Sundays and holidays)
  • She thinks that I’m not quite good enough – no matter what I do or the results I get.
  • She doesn’t believe any nice feedback about me
  • She reads negativity into everything
  • She won’t leave me alone – she’s in my head all the time, from the moment I wake to the time I snuggle up in my bed (sometimes she’s even joining me in my dreams).  Like WTF – give me a break!!

She is an absolute bitch!

Why do I work for her?  Because I choose to! I wanted to work for her.  She was my dream boss.  I decided to work for her because I no longer wanted to work for those other bosses who only expected 8 hrs a day from me, gave me weekends off, paid me every month and gave me 4 weeks paid holiday per year and didn’t expect me to even think about work during that time.  I didn’t want a boss who thanked me for my work at the end of the week, who appraised me and pointed out my positives at the annual review, who incentivised my wins and who didn’t say mean things to me.

I chose her. ????

Why?  I thought she’d be kind.  I thought she’d be a good boss to work for.  I thought I’d be able to have time off to be with the people who needed me, when they needed me, without having to beg.  I thought I could simply make the decision to go to the school play or the doctors appointment without having to explain myself and promising to make the time up.

Aaaaahhhhh, but she wasn’t what I expected at all.

Holy shit – She is me & I am her.

It’s time to STOP these shenanigans. It’s time to stop being such a cow bag to yourself. It’s time to upgrade your boss.

So it’s time for a disciplinary meeting for that there meanie pants.

Right, no longer are we willing to accept your mean behaviour.  It’s not acceptable and it will no longer be tolerated.

  • Working every hour will simply make people less productive.  Burn out is a REAL thing AND will mean that you HAVE to stop whether you like it or not.  It’s much better to put positive and enthusiastic energy into your business than burnout and negative energy into there.
  • It’s ok to have time off – in fact it’s essential.
  • Don’t say anything that you wouldn’t be prepared to say to your best friend or someone you love.  That dialogue needs to be constructive, supportive and encouraging.
  • It’s time to celebrate the wins before moving on to the next thing.

Now I’ve been there previously but I’ve pretty much got this licked now – every now and then the mean boss appears but I can soon pop her back in her box.  She doesn’t have the right to be horrid and abusive to me anymore ????

How are we going to ensure that these changes are made and implemented;

Celebrate successes and write down your wins of the week every week (I do this every Friday afternoon on my Facebook Page)

  1. Take a note of your monthly numbers on the 1st of every month and then you can see the areas of growth throughout the month.
  2. Celebrate the sale/win/progress and practice saying nice things rather than going straight to what you haven’t done.
  3. Access your feedback regularly and know that people mean what they say.
  4. Diary in time off and “cave” time.  I went to a conference in 2016 where one of the speakers said that he scheduled in over 100 days off per year at the beginning of each year and stuck to it.  It was time when the office didn’t contact him (unless the sky was falling in) and that he didn’t look at work.  This time inspired his creativity and recharged his batteries.  If that makes you feel sick then start with a day a week and a week per year perhaps?!
  5. If you can’t say (or think) anything nice then say nothing at all.

Time to stand up to her, two fingers aloft and say “fuck you, I’m not prepared to have a mean boss anymore!!”

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